Break the Silence

Awkward silence is it a good thing or bad thing.? In my opinion I really can't stand it. I feel, if the silence does exist between two people in the "getting to know you stage" then there is your clue or red flag. If over time the silence develops, I believe that the connection or bond between the two is becoming unstable. Well a better word to use is growing apart.

On the other hand, silence can be a beautiful thing. Two people can sit in a room, not say a word but that silence can be the most powerful conversation those two could have ever had. It's in the eyes, its in the thought, its in the persons body language. I think for someone to get to this stage with a person really shows how strong their bond is emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Psychologist say the silence is ok. A type of free association where what ever comes to mind is spoken about.
Here are a few thoughts:
If you talk to the person you like all day, then switch to text then when you meet have nothing to talk about I suggest you talk a little less.
If you talk to the person you like all day (phone and text) and when you see each other and you still have things to say, great kudos to you.
If you are having problems and silence is there in the initial stages of getting to know someone then drop that person. Or bring the concern up.
Let conversation flow. Random is good. Don't turn your conversation into an interrogation process with back to back questions.
Conversation is fun! Don't think, just talk.
Being goofy is ok! If the person doesn't like it, you don't need them in your life.

That's all I have to say for now.

*my words, my canvas*

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Live for yourself...

It's been a while since my last post. It's not because I've lost motivation or inspiration. The reason is something else, something deeper. I guess for now I' ll stick with, " I haven't had time."
I have been getting a lot of feedback lately from readers, some comments, and mostly questions. One question that has stuck in my mind was, what makes you write? I didn't have to think twice about the answer. I write because this blank canvas won't say anything back. I can write on it, it will listen and in the end when I am done speaking my mind it won't gave me an opinion or suggestion.

I noticed lately people can't stop imposing their opinions on others. I don't really understand why. Do people think we are so dependent on their peoples point of view, that they keep forcing you to believe that there way is the correct way? I think about it and I realize a lot of people in this world put their happiness in the other persons happiness. You following me? For example, "if your happy I'm happy." What the heck does that mean? Aren't you your own person. Don't you have feeling, emotions, thought, opinions? Why are people so dependent on other for their happiness?

I believe that people will always have a different view then you. I also believe that we should listen and then decide, does that suggestion benefit me? I also believe that we want our loved ones to be happy, seeing them hits that warm spot in our hearts, however where do we draw the line. When do we say, I am glad your happy and I value your point of view but today I'm just gona do me....

Your happiness, your mood, your emotions should not revolve around people. They belong to you, you control them, people just try to have an effect on them. Stay strong, live for you. Sometimes being self fish (in limitation) isn't bad.

Think about it:
When your a child you want to please your parents. You listen to them, they guide you.
When your a teen you want your friends to like you. Some follow, some go into peer pressure, others lead.
When you a adult you get into relationships pleasing the other person.
You get older have kids, you want to please your significant other and kids.
Then you have grandkids ....
Where does your happiness fit in this?

What I'm tryin to say is: stop depending on others for your happiness, find your happiness in things you enjoy in life. Other people will always have their suggestions, listen and decide if its the right thing for you.

Good bye for now.

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Life Changes..Not always for the better

You walk into the doctor’s office and you receive bad news. Something will happen in the future but there is no guarantee the results will be positive, but mostly they look negative. What do you do? What exactly is going on in your mind, thoughts and emotions? I can tell you I have firsthand experience in this not once, but twice in the past two years. It takes a while to get over the shock, however in the end you can’t do anything but just move on with life.

The question is or I should say the thought: When do people grow up and realize life isn’t a joke? It isn’t a game?

Does something drastic have to go on for a person to realize that the path they are on right now needs to change? Or can there be a balance between the two (Life = Game Life = Inst Game)? I raise these questions because I myself don’t have the answer; no one says you need to have the answer now, this second. The answers come with time. Although some of you who read this might have the answer already. I’ll have to say congratulations to you on figuring it out.

Let me get back to the initial scenario. You find out your life will be changing what do you do? Do you make a list of things you haven’t done and try to accomplish them? Do you live life recklessly and not care what happens? There are so many things that you can do, but here is what I chose to do. Lay in bed for a few days, keep to myself and then find another opinion.

I choose to find a solution. For some, solutions might not be an option, but I plan to find one. Even if in the end I have no luck, I can still say I tried.

That’s all for now, my mind is somewhere else and I just hope that these words made sense.

Stop controlling it, and LIVE it.

Current task at hand: To write a paper on stimulant medication and its effects on children with ADHD.

My mind: In another world.

Things are rough. They never seem to ever go right. People who know me, and know me well always say, “God is testing you, he is making you stronger for something big coming your way.” I say, what else can you throw at me to make me stronger? I’m not weak mentally, physically nor emotionally. It would be nice to wake up in the morning and know that today will be great. It’s easy people say, just tell yourself and believe that you will have the best day and bam! It will be in the palm of your hands. But is that true? Is that optimism at its best?

Let’s say you do that. You take peoples advice, wake up and it’s gorgeous outside, you look in the mirror and say today is MY day. It is going to be great. Then back to back one bad thing after another just occurs. Then what? Do you say, today wasn’t my day but tomorrow will be? Ok lets, say the following day comes along and the same scenario occurs. You wake up and say; today is going to be great! Then the same thing. …a series of events occur to make your day a little less great, makes your mood a little less brighter. You see this turn into a habitual occurrence, than what do you do? What do you say? Do you lose hope? Do you give up? Or do you stay strong and believe that one day things will get better? The question is when?

You ever get that feeling that whenever you take two steps forward, you take ten backwards? Well, that’s exactly how I feel. It seems like my efforts are useless, whatever I do is never good enough, the more good I do the more bad comes into my life. Do you ever see the people who are genuinely bad, those who step on others to get places in life, those who have attitudes, those who do people wrong, are happier? Do they get further in life?

You know that saying, “Life is a bitch, now so am I,” All the signs are saying, become one! I think to myself, how can I? How can I live with myself knowing am doing wrong? How can I sleep at night knowing my conscious isn’t clean? It’s just not how I am.

Sure things are tough, but you choose to make them tough or simple.

Examples:

If you know a person is a certain way and it irritates you – change how you respond. Do not react.

If a person is driving slowly on the highway – don’t let the road rage get your mood down, simply over take them.

If a girl or guy it tripping for no reason – stop, think about it from their perspective then respond.

If day after day you wake up and aren’t happy – change it do something that makes you happy

Money issues? – sell some things on ebay! Get a job on the side if you got talent put it to work!

Your kids giving your problems? – let them go, learn the hard way, then they will come back and say, you were right.

The main point is, stop trying to control the situation. Don’t wake up and say, “Today will be a good day.” Let things just fall in place. I believe that everything is written, it will happen. However, you always have a choice on how to respond to things which can make what is written positive or negative.