Lean On Me...

When do we start relying on others to help us with daily living skills? Well, not just helping with that. How about when we ask for favors such as, “hey can you pick up my dry cleaning on the way home?” When does this transition start to form within us?

I believe this is initiated by others and taught to individuals at a very young age. Remember day care? If none of you have been to day care how about pre-school? There is a period of time allocated just for, “clean up time.” The person will instruct children to help clean. Do any of you remember this song? “Clean up; clean up, everybody clean up.” The teacher is relying on these kids to help make their day easier by getting that cleaning done. Along the way, the children are learning three things. One to follow instructions, two clean up after yourself, and thirdly it is ok to rely on other people to do things for you.

How about an injury that causes you to require help from someone else? How does it feel to rely on someone else to do things for you? What if they way they do it isn’t satisfactory to how you would do things. Well, it’s the thought that counts right?

I can pick at the little things such as asking a family member to grab you a soda, glass of water, help fold those irritating clothes that are still sitting in the dryer. When did we start becoming so dependent on other people to help us complete tasks? Why ward off these tasks to other people when they are meant to be accomplished by us? When do you say, “No, I can do this on my own.”

No matter how independent we think we are, or say we are, we will always rely on other people for one thing or the other. Even if it’s standing in line at Starbucks waiting on, relying on that individual to make your coffee, latte, or even grab that bagel for you.

This point of this post is just to create awareness for you who are reading this blog.

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It's free!!

The best things in life are free. Excuse me! Nothing is free! Not even relationships.

Think about this scenario: You find someone interesting. You ask them out and just for the sake of this scenario we will say that the person said, “Yes.” You take them out, maybe to eat at a restaurant. In the end for all the guys out there you do spend money on that person when you pay the bill. However, if you both split the bill, hey you still spent that money right?

Scenario no. 2: Let’s say you do not go out and eat, maybe you meet up somewhere. For this example we are going to make the location a park. Even though you do not have to spend money at the park, you sure do have to spend money to get there. Ask me how? Well silly people, the gas that it takes you to travel from point A to point B.

Let’s not talk about relationships. Let us talk about free samples? No, wait even better how about we talk about, “the best things.” Seriously what does that even mean? I truly believe that, “the best things” has a different interpretation from individual to individual. What I think is the best, is not necessarily what other people think is, “the best thing.”

How about having a child for the first time is that the best thing? Yes? No? If it is the best thing um it isn’t free. Well after you see the hospital bills, the money spent on formula, diapers, school supplies, clothes, high school, and college etc. Yeah that does add up.

Oh I have a good one, “waking up next to you every morning is the best thing.” And it’s free. No ladies and gentleman it isn’t free at all. You paid for “the best” by basically taming the mountain tiger (the girl or guy) into a sleeping bag by sacrificing and spending money on that person. Can a relationship really work without money?

Something to think about: Will your arms keep your spouse warm at night if you have no shelter. Will your love fill your spouse’s stomach when you have nothing to eat?

Let us back track to where I stated, “Waking up to you every morning is the best thing.” Let us analyze this. You wake up next to this person: the bed you are sleeping on = $, where you live with this person = $, additionally you have to compromise every day to make your partner happy. I think it is especially important if your partner is a woman. If you want her happy in the morning, it is important that she wakes up to something amazing (e.g. kind words, presents, and unconditional love) with the addition of sex.

Finally I want to come to my point. I mentioned a few things earlier and I would like to quickly touch on them in this section. “The best things in life are free.” What is free? Kind words, unconditional love, support, and being genuine.

Brief list of things individuals think are free:
Free samples – in the end you are pressured to purchase, if you do not purchase and run out of the sample you are shit out of luck.
Gifts – you have to gift the person back when it’s their birthday etc.

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Times Up ...You're Out

You truly are alone in this world when you are going through something (e.g. surgery) and you have no one who cares enough to wish you good luck. I find it sad. On the other hand, do we really need people in our lives to say something simple as, "good luck." Life has been so busy that friends have felt ignored and have stop communicating. Is having a career bad? Or is having a career that forces you to neglect those who care worth it? All that money you spent on education, all those sleepless nights spent studying, would you give up a little bit of time in your important career to keep those individuals in your life who will say, "hey good luck!" Can there be balance? What is life without balance? In my opinion after working a 24 hour a week job with a two hour commute one way, also working a 40 hour job a week with an hour commute one way really drains you. All you have time to do is work out and when the clock hits 8pm your passed out. what ever happened to those friends where after not communicating for let's say a month, you can pick up the phone and start where you left off? Why is there a unwritten law that says, "keep in touch or else you are not my friend."

Personally, ill get back to you when I can. Just because I don't reply right away it is not because I do not want to talk to you. I am busy, I am tired, I want to be alone. But I will get back to you.

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