Never be the second women. Either your first or nothing at all...
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Sunday, April 15, 2012
Thought of The Night...
Once you learn what you are meant to learn, you can let it go.
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Saturday, April 14, 2012
Thought of The Night...
I see the door and I'm walking right through it...this is me saying good bye.
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Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Quote of the Day!
Don’t leave something good to find something better. Once you realise you had the best, the best has found better- Drake
Why So Distant?
I've been branded the 'Advice Queen' among most of my girlfriends and have been faced with this question a few times buy friends of mine. I'm no expert but I do give the best advice I can and have had no complaints...yet.
*sigh* Drama can be too much sometimes right?! ;)*
These are my tips for dealing with a distant boyfriend, what Can I do?
It doesn't matter if you've not been with your guy that long; you might even be married, if you're in the same boat it just may help you too.
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, THEY ARE OFTEN BEST, IF SOMETHING DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT, IT OFTEN ISN'T RIGHT AT ALL.
There are a number of reasons a guy can get distant (if you're a girl that has more guy friends than girls or a woman with vast life experience under your belt, you may know this already).
Stress: It could be work related, the pressures of family life, being in a relationship, university deadlines etc.
Avoidance: he may be being distant as a form of avoiding a situation, which has nothing to do with you, but believes he must avoid you in order to avoid that problem because you may force cause or push him to face it.
Fear: perhaps he has noticed how needy he is becoming and he believes this might cause him to lose his independence, he probably likes you so much that it has just dawned on him how much he loves you or is falling in love with you and this might be to much for him. He may also fear the level of commitment or an increase in expectations you may have.
Cheating: yes it is quite possible that he maybe cheating, but being distant isn't the only sign of infidelity. So fret not ladies.
There are a number of things you should and should not do:
NO-NOs
Wasting time worrying, it will do neither of you any favours, and he will sense that you're worrying which will make him even more nervy and cold.
S-Mothering him: he needs your reassurance that he can handle this sitch like a man, he is not a baby, or your child.
Taking it personally: more than often it has nothing to do with you it can be work,friend,family related.
Trying solving it for him: it could put an end to your relationship, if he wanted you to solve he would have said so.
Playing mind games to get what's going on out of him: he will no enjoy it and feel he may not be able to trust him.
Making a big deal out of it, when he does open up and talk.
Mode of Action
Giving him all the space he needs: if it's a freedom, independence fear thing, he'd snap right back to you with time.
Loving the hell out of your man: he needs you now more than ever before.
Staying happy, hence the not worrying or game play to get him to talk.
Reassure him that you trust and believe him. Give him confidence let him know he can handle it.
Stay breezy/chilled out/calm when you're together, if he retires to another room, keep it all happy and smiley where you're at, he'd come out to feel the love. Positive energy is like a yawn.Contagious!
Set up some quiet time between the two of you, no distractions where he feels he can talk and he just might!
Something to Consider
Are you being too needy/demanding/clingy? This can lead to your guy getting a little distant.
Ladies, it's all fixable, just beware it could be the worst case scenario- he's ready to end it and is detaching himself so it won't hurt when he's leaving. It can be rough when your guy gets all cold but it can be handled, as soon as you spot it. Be brave it's never always worst case scenario.
Source: http://satoya.hubpages.com/hub/distant-boyfriend-advice
*sigh* Drama can be too much sometimes right?! ;)*
These are my tips for dealing with a distant boyfriend, what Can I do?
It doesn't matter if you've not been with your guy that long; you might even be married, if you're in the same boat it just may help you too.
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, THEY ARE OFTEN BEST, IF SOMETHING DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT, IT OFTEN ISN'T RIGHT AT ALL.
There are a number of reasons a guy can get distant (if you're a girl that has more guy friends than girls or a woman with vast life experience under your belt, you may know this already).
Stress: It could be work related, the pressures of family life, being in a relationship, university deadlines etc.
Avoidance: he may be being distant as a form of avoiding a situation, which has nothing to do with you, but believes he must avoid you in order to avoid that problem because you may force cause or push him to face it.
Fear: perhaps he has noticed how needy he is becoming and he believes this might cause him to lose his independence, he probably likes you so much that it has just dawned on him how much he loves you or is falling in love with you and this might be to much for him. He may also fear the level of commitment or an increase in expectations you may have.
Cheating: yes it is quite possible that he maybe cheating, but being distant isn't the only sign of infidelity. So fret not ladies.
There are a number of things you should and should not do:
NO-NOs
Wasting time worrying, it will do neither of you any favours, and he will sense that you're worrying which will make him even more nervy and cold.
S-Mothering him: he needs your reassurance that he can handle this sitch like a man, he is not a baby, or your child.
Taking it personally: more than often it has nothing to do with you it can be work,friend,family related.
Trying solving it for him: it could put an end to your relationship, if he wanted you to solve he would have said so.
Playing mind games to get what's going on out of him: he will no enjoy it and feel he may not be able to trust him.
Making a big deal out of it, when he does open up and talk.
Mode of Action
Giving him all the space he needs: if it's a freedom, independence fear thing, he'd snap right back to you with time.
Loving the hell out of your man: he needs you now more than ever before.
Staying happy, hence the not worrying or game play to get him to talk.
Reassure him that you trust and believe him. Give him confidence let him know he can handle it.
Stay breezy/chilled out/calm when you're together, if he retires to another room, keep it all happy and smiley where you're at, he'd come out to feel the love. Positive energy is like a yawn.Contagious!
Set up some quiet time between the two of you, no distractions where he feels he can talk and he just might!
Something to Consider
Are you being too needy/demanding/clingy? This can lead to your guy getting a little distant.
Ladies, it's all fixable, just beware it could be the worst case scenario- he's ready to end it and is detaching himself so it won't hurt when he's leaving. It can be rough when your guy gets all cold but it can be handled, as soon as you spot it. Be brave it's never always worst case scenario.
Source: http://satoya.hubpages.com/hub/distant-boyfriend-advice
Thought of The Night!
Don't let other people influence or affect your thoughts and feelings. Be your own person and follow your heart!
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Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Thought of The Day!
As people we tend to worry about the things that don’t matter and forget about the things that do. Enjoy your life to the fullest because you never know when it’s going to end. So smile more, love more and enjoy more. Dueling on things just ruins your life. Being mad or upset with others for things they have done is just a waste of your energy. You can’t change the past or the mistakes. You can only change your future.
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Monday, February 27, 2012
Thought of The Day!
Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it ...it really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more - Erica Jong
Sunday, February 26, 2012
To Be Human...
Many of us have forgotten how to be Human. I would have to say, you should never forget.
It is important to remember why we need to be humble, never spiteful, remember that we do have a conscience, be kind, be prudent. Be generous, be respectful, never ugly, control you ego, sacrifice for those you care for. Life isn't a game. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. Look at how much you have instead of how much you want or don't have. Remember that things could be worse. Be thankful for good health and happiness. Be thankful for waking up to another day.
Remember to view the world in the past, present and future. This ability allows us to learn from our past mistakes, progress in the present and imagine the future.
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It is important to remember why we need to be humble, never spiteful, remember that we do have a conscience, be kind, be prudent. Be generous, be respectful, never ugly, control you ego, sacrifice for those you care for. Life isn't a game. Focus on the positive instead of the negative. Look at how much you have instead of how much you want or don't have. Remember that things could be worse. Be thankful for good health and happiness. Be thankful for waking up to another day.
Remember to view the world in the past, present and future. This ability allows us to learn from our past mistakes, progress in the present and imagine the future.
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Love Is...
Love is patient and kind, it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited, it is never rude or selfish, it does not take offence, nor is it resentful. Love takes no pleasure in others’ sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end. There are three things that last, faith, hope and love and the greatest of these is love.
Friday, February 24, 2012
Wake Up Call
We often ask for a sign however when we get one we might ignore it. I am ignoring it and I am aware of it. Why can't I pull away when I know its headed for danger or failure...I guess that's why I always learn the hard way.
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Tuesday, February 14, 2012
What's Wrong With Me?!?
Recently I found out some news that was quite disturbing. This problem has been going on for 5 years and I was misdiagnosed. Recently, I contacted a specialist in the state of Florida and sent my MRI's and reports in. The specialist says three things are wrong with me: spinal stenosis, forminal narroring, and bulge/herniation. If untreated I can possibly be paralyzed. I have been down (sad and numb) since. The procedure cost + $20,000 and that I do not have.
My request from my readers is that if you believe, if you have faith and if you pray please keep me in yours, so I don't get to that point. I am hoping for a miracle.
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My request from my readers is that if you believe, if you have faith and if you pray please keep me in yours, so I don't get to that point. I am hoping for a miracle.
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Random Thought for the Night
Although 12 hours of my day was spent at work. Having a Valentine Lunch with my girly friends was amazing, the only thing that was missing was my family.
Whether your single or taken ...try to appreciate the little things.
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Whether your single or taken ...try to appreciate the little things.
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Happy Valentines Day!
I want to wish each and every one of you a very happy Valentine’s day! Whether you’re spending it with a love one, your family or your friends, it’s a time to show how much you love and appreciate the people in your life and I hope you all have an amazing day filled with love and laughter!!
Food for thought:
She said: Happy Valentines Day!!
He said: That Hallmark holiday means nothing to me
She said: Well it means something to me....
If he doesn't care about how to feel, why should you?
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Food for thought:
She said: Happy Valentines Day!!
He said: That Hallmark holiday means nothing to me
She said: Well it means something to me....
If he doesn't care about how to feel, why should you?
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In The Waiting Line
Wait in line
'Till your time
Ticking clock
Everyone stop
Everyone's saying different things to me
Different things to me
Nine to five
Living lies
Everyday
Stealing time
Everyone's taking everything they can
Everything they can
Do you believe
In what you feel
It doesn't seem to be anybody else who agrees with me
Ah and I'll shout and I'll scream
But I'd rather not have seen
And I'll hide away for another day
Do you believe
In what you see
Motionless wheel
Nothing is real
Wasting my time
In the waiting line
Do you believe
In what you see
Everyone's saying different things to me
Different things to me
Everyone's taking everything they can
Everything they can
'Till your time
Ticking clock
Everyone stop
Everyone's saying different things to me
Different things to me
Nine to five
Living lies
Everyday
Stealing time
Everyone's taking everything they can
Everything they can
Do you believe
In what you feel
It doesn't seem to be anybody else who agrees with me
Ah and I'll shout and I'll scream
But I'd rather not have seen
And I'll hide away for another day
Do you believe
In what you see
Motionless wheel
Nothing is real
Wasting my time
In the waiting line
Do you believe
In what you see
Everyone's saying different things to me
Different things to me
Everyone's taking everything they can
Everything they can
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