Father’s day is around the corner and some of us might be preparing for it. Maybe, getting reservations or stopping by at the mall to pick up something special. I think the best gift a person can give is something from your heart. I know this is a recession and some of us don’t have the funds for that extravagant lifestyle. Maybe some of us have been saving up for this, or maybe some of us don’t speak to our fathers anymore. One thing that you can do is think about all the sacrifices your father has done for you. If any.
Different types of father styles:
Type 1: There might be some of us out there who had a troubled childhood. Your father might have worked a lot and when he came home he would drink until intoxication took over.
Type 2: There might be some of us out there who never saw our dad’s because he was always working, but little did we know that every night when we were asleep he would come into our rooms and give us a kiss.
Type 3: There might be some of us out there who had that active father figure in our lives.
Type 4: There might be some of us out there who never knew our fathers.
Type 5: Finally there might be some of us out there who were abused.
Each of these categories has and does make an impact in your life. I understand that.
If you’re the type 1 that was described earlier in this post then, just realize that your father might have had a rough childhood himself. He probably had a father who did the same thing. He did not mean to avoid you; he wanted to provide your family with money. He worked hard so you can have the things you wanted (your wants, not your needs), he worked hard to send you to a good college one day, he worked to save money for your wedding as a contribution. You might have not seen this point of view when you were younger, but one thing you can do this year is realize he didn’t mean it. He was working for you.
If you are the type 2: Though your father was not around he always had and still has you in his thoughts. You might have not known this was occurring every night, but one thing you can do this year is appreciate that it did.
Type 3: Even though your father was not active in your life, just let it go. Learn from the past, and remember how you felt. I tell you to remember this, so when you have children you are there for them. So your child does not feel they way you felt. All you can do this father’s day, is forgive him.
Type 4: If you never knew your father, just thank god that you were brought into this world. He might not want anything to do with you, but this should make you a better father in the future. This father’s day what you can do is thank your father for brining you into this world. Without you, this world would not be the same. Everyone makes an impact believe it or not.
Type 5: For those of us who were abused or saw our fathers beat our mothers, what you should do is realize how women feel and how it affects them. Remember that you should never replicate this. Treat women how you would want your sister to be treated by her boyfriend/husband. This year for father’s day thank your father for teaching you a lesson that will impact your life in a better way when you have your family.
As for me, I didn’t know my parents till I was eight years old. Here are a few things I do know:
My father has been working since the age of 13.
My father has never had it easy.
My father has always been there for me.
My father has always provided for me, every need and want.
I know he would buy me those shoes that light up when you walk, when the fact was he needed new shoes for work.
The sacrifices he has made for me, I could never pay him back. No amount of money could ever pay my dad back. This father’s day let your father know what he means to you. Say, thank you. Say, I love you.
Remember, look at the good times, and stop remembering the bad times. The bad times will hurt, but we need to forgive in life to move on. I forgave my dad for leaving me before I was even born, and it made us closer.
