I enjoy being in the corner because it’s safe. Sure I might come out from time to time to get a breath of new air, I call it. I never understood the term, “fresh air.” I find nothing fresh about air because of the pollution in the air. Unless you live in the damn forest surrounded by the wilderness that is the only time you can say, “Fresh air.” Now that we got that straight let’s go on and talk about the, “safe zone” I call it.
Recently my friend had a status up and it asked a question about why girls stay in relationships when they know it’s heading for failure. Sure a lot of things come into play when we analyze the situation. We can say: low confidence, low self-esteem, issues during childhood/parenting style, past relationship problems, subconscious. Now if we take a look at it from a different perspective we can see that the person who: Knows but won’t leave; is stuck in the “safe zone.”
The safe zone: It doesnt feel right, but hey it’s better than nothing. This person knows everything about me already and it will be too hard to start dating someone else. Who wants to say, “Here we go again.” Let me highlight a few words for you: HARD, BETTER THAN NOTHING, NOT AGAIN.
These all scream to me and give my brain that signal that says: Hey!!! Hey!!! THE UNKNOWN IS SCARY!!
How do we get past it? The hardest part about making a decision is living with it. I believe whatever happens in life (for good or bad) happens for a good reason. We do not realize it but we are living the UNKNOWN right now. Think about it, the next 5 minutes of your life is truly considered the UNKNOWN. We do not know what will happen in the next minute, hour, day, tomorrow. So why the fear?
The point of this post is to truly make those people aware. We can live in fear and never make decision, or we can take action and LIVE OUR LIVES.
How we spend our Days, is how we live our LIFE.
*My Words, My Canvas*
Recently my friend had a status up and it asked a question about why girls stay in relationships when they know it’s heading for failure. Sure a lot of things come into play when we analyze the situation. We can say: low confidence, low self-esteem, issues during childhood/parenting style, past relationship problems, subconscious. Now if we take a look at it from a different perspective we can see that the person who: Knows but won’t leave; is stuck in the “safe zone.”
The safe zone: It doesnt feel right, but hey it’s better than nothing. This person knows everything about me already and it will be too hard to start dating someone else. Who wants to say, “Here we go again.” Let me highlight a few words for you: HARD, BETTER THAN NOTHING, NOT AGAIN.
These all scream to me and give my brain that signal that says: Hey!!! Hey!!! THE UNKNOWN IS SCARY!!
How do we get past it? The hardest part about making a decision is living with it. I believe whatever happens in life (for good or bad) happens for a good reason. We do not realize it but we are living the UNKNOWN right now. Think about it, the next 5 minutes of your life is truly considered the UNKNOWN. We do not know what will happen in the next minute, hour, day, tomorrow. So why the fear?
The point of this post is to truly make those people aware. We can live in fear and never make decision, or we can take action and LIVE OUR LIVES.
How we spend our Days, is how we live our LIFE.
*My Words, My Canvas*
Thank you for the insight, these words are great ones to live by.
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