When do we start relying on others to help us with daily living skills? Well, not just helping with that. How about when we ask for favors such as, “hey can you pick up my dry cleaning on the way home?” When does this transition start to form within us?
I believe this is initiated by others and taught to individuals at a very young age. Remember day care? If none of you have been to day care how about pre-school? There is a period of time allocated just for, “clean up time.” The person will instruct children to help clean. Do any of you remember this song? “Clean up; clean up, everybody clean up.” The teacher is relying on these kids to help make their day easier by getting that cleaning done. Along the way, the children are learning three things. One to follow instructions, two clean up after yourself, and thirdly it is ok to rely on other people to do things for you.
How about an injury that causes you to require help from someone else? How does it feel to rely on someone else to do things for you? What if they way they do it isn’t satisfactory to how you would do things. Well, it’s the thought that counts right?
I can pick at the little things such as asking a family member to grab you a soda, glass of water, help fold those irritating clothes that are still sitting in the dryer. When did we start becoming so dependent on other people to help us complete tasks? Why ward off these tasks to other people when they are meant to be accomplished by us? When do you say, “No, I can do this on my own.”
No matter how independent we think we are, or say we are, we will always rely on other people for one thing or the other. Even if it’s standing in line at Starbucks waiting on, relying on that individual to make your coffee, latte, or even grab that bagel for you.
This point of this post is just to create awareness for you who are reading this blog.
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For as long as humans have walked this shiny blue rock we call Earth people have always depended on one another. It is in our nature to reach out to others and ask them for assistance even for small mundane tasks. Is it really necessary, do we really have an inability to perform these tasks? Probably not, it might just be that we're looking for a way to connect to someone else. To be assured that someone else acknowledges you and can respect your request. Not only is doing something for someone else a form of respect but it is also a way to reinforce our perception of ourselves. "Yes I have the capacity and the power to ask of others", it's almost egotistical.
ReplyDeleteNow flip it. There is power in being able to say NO. Denying help or assistance to another person also carries some heavy implications. In the grand scheme of things I feel that it's always best to help out whenever you can no matter how small the task. Call it karma, being a good samaritan, or just being nice it's important in this dog eat dog world that people who do good for the sake of doing it exist.
I'll get off my soapbox now, this is your blog. :)
S.A.M.
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ReplyDeleteI do like the topic, In today’s world we do rely on others to help/do thing for us and in my opinion this is just one’s opinion a lot of thing we do in life we try to think of ways to make things easier and if you so just to happen to come around when I’m working on something I may just ask for your help. But on the other hand there is that time when I just really want to do it myself and don’t want anybody helping me. Then I don’t rely.
As for your example about the teacher I do remember having to clean up the class room before leaving and I never looked at it as learning theses 3 things back then but your right that’s what we learned. An if I had the injury and needed a helping hand I would not hold them accountable for my dissatisfaction as long as what I ask to get done still got done correctly.
The saying, “No, I can do this on my own.” Will happen when I stop trying to find a easy fast way to get done things.
Peace,Love&Respect………..Guido