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East vs. West

East coast vs West coast. No this isn't about a music war neither is it about bashing one or the other. This is merely a comparison of how the individuals differ in mentality. This blog is suppose to make you think about the types of individuality that is in this world. Never the same. Yet we always find followers.

If something I say in this blog offends you, I honestly don't care. My moto in life has always been, "have an issue, grab a tissue." So with all that being said let's continue.

I have lived a fair amount of my life in the east and west coast. Things that I have noticed over time really make me wonder, why such a big difference?

In the east coast or where ever you reside, you believe that the people in the west coast have, "the good life." They get to surf everyday and live a chill and easy going lazy lifestyle. You don't realize the truth till you live here, it can't be felt by a visit.

I think I want to do this "list style," just to avoid the paragraphs. I'm going to keep this short and simple.

West Coast Mentality
Fake - they act one way to your face and one way when you have your face turned. Also too much plastic surgery going on. Where is the true beauty?
Flake - never stick to their word
Shallow - they will not befriend or talk to people who are not socially desirable.
Not straight up - people can't take 'real talk' they get all sensitive and butt hurt.

East Coast Mentality
Straight up - this could be good or bad. Telling it how it is can get you in trouble, but they don't care.
Shallow - they don't call it that, its called having standards. Plus anyone will befriend a grenade if their personality is kick ass.
Flake - we have these every where but when they say 'I'm down' they won't change their mind.
They think they are better than everyone else - seriously people no one is better or worse.
They are shady

That's the list. Remember this is a generalization, some people will always be different from the rest. We just have to find them.

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Fake or Real

How can you tell your real friends from your fake friends? Is there usually a consistent pattern going on with the fake ones? Or can a friend be in your life and is always there for you, but when big shit goes down they disappear. Do you overlook it and let it go? I mean, they were there for you when problem a, b, and c went down. But, when problems X, Y, and Z happened where was that friend? Is that person considered fake, close, or just a friend?

It's funny because sooner or later we start saying, "oh --- is so self fish, they only care about themselves." I ask, does being a real friend mean dropping everything and being by a persons side? Should their be boundaries?

I guess everyone's definition of friendship is very different. My definition is: friends are like family. There will always be up's and downs but in the end you all remain united.

We as friends forget that sometimes a simple phone call to check in goes a long way.

I guess it also depends on your personality and how dependent or needy a person is. Some people constantly need that friend in their lives. Once the friend doesnt jump when the other person tells them to, the person gets all butt hurt and classifies them as a fake friend.

In the end I have to conclude and say:
Re-evaluate your definition of friendship.
Understand that your friend may not be physically present all the time.
Little gestures do go a long way.
If your mind and heart are on the same page, the decision your making is the right decision.
Sometimes being self fish is okay.
You'll know who's real and who's fake. It's an instinct. Not a judgement nor a assumption.
It's better to have one great friend then several fake friends.
It's about quality, not quantity.

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If your Not REAL...Leave

Real people? Where are they? I actually have noticed a lot of people try and pretend they are someone else and later on you see their true colors. I’ve heard it all before, “I’m different,” “I’m real” and my favorite one, “I’m a straight up person.” However, all this is quite temporary. The true meaning of being different, real and straight up means one thing in this world: Speak up. Though a lot of people do not like this type of person, you would be surprised some do enjoy the bluntness. If only people where more real with each other and more truthful, I think there would be a lack of drama in this world.

I’ll give you a scenario:

Your talking to a person everything is going well and you’re hitting it off. You all meet up go out to dinner and then after dinner continue to text a few days after that. Eventually, the phone calls stop (one person decides) and the text messages become less.

Now the question is ….why doesn’t the person just say: Hey I’m not feeling it?

To be honest: that person was never “different,” “real,” and “straight up” as they had claimed to be. This
person was simply putting a front and pretending to be someone else. In other words that person was fake.
Some people would say the person was trying to not hurt the other person’s feelings. I’ll say stop making damn excuses. I would be more hurt if I found out I was lied to, then someone telling me the truth.

That brings up the question why pretend to be someone you are not? Does it make you feel better? Or do people just enjoy playing games? Well that’s another blog saved for another day.

The conclusion or the moral of this blog is simple:

If you can’t be straight up and real, do not pretend to be.

*My Words, My Canvas*