How can you tell your real friends from your fake friends? Is there usually a consistent pattern going on with the fake ones? Or can a friend be in your life and is always there for you, but when big shit goes down they disappear. Do you overlook it and let it go? I mean, they were there for you when problem a, b, and c went down. But, when problems X, Y, and Z happened where was that friend? Is that person considered fake, close, or just a friend?
It's funny because sooner or later we start saying, "oh --- is so self fish, they only care about themselves." I ask, does being a real friend mean dropping everything and being by a persons side? Should their be boundaries?
I guess everyone's definition of friendship is very different. My definition is: friends are like family. There will always be up's and downs but in the end you all remain united.
We as friends forget that sometimes a simple phone call to check in goes a long way.
I guess it also depends on your personality and how dependent or needy a person is. Some people constantly need that friend in their lives. Once the friend doesnt jump when the other person tells them to, the person gets all butt hurt and classifies them as a fake friend.
In the end I have to conclude and say:
Re-evaluate your definition of friendship.
Understand that your friend may not be physically present all the time.
Little gestures do go a long way.
If your mind and heart are on the same page, the decision your making is the right decision.
Sometimes being self fish is okay.
You'll know who's real and who's fake. It's an instinct. Not a judgement nor a assumption.
It's better to have one great friend then several fake friends.
It's about quality, not quantity.
*My Words, My Canvas."
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