“Always keep your options open,” I would often find myself saying that line to teens/friends that would come to me for relationship advice. The reason why I would give this piece of advice to people is because of the simple fact that I was a firm believer in that motto.
You are taught at a very young age to, “Keep your options open.” You might be wondering when this has happened? I will give you an example, you have received your SAT score and are getting ready to apply to colleges. Your parents and or counselor says, pick at least three school's, one being the one you can’t get into, second the one you want to get into, and third the one you can get into. Another example I want to share, when you are applying for a job, “keep your options open,” do not apply just to one place, apply to many, interview, the more the better.
When does this motto apply to relationships? Is it when you are single and just dating? Or when your single, speaking to someone you potentially can see yourself with but aren’t sure? Or do you keep your options open when you’re just tired of the person you are with and need a backup? For those of you who do not know what a backup is, the best way I can explain it, when you need someone to fall back on when your number one pick doesn’t work out there is always number two.
My next question is when does the “keep your options open” motto end? Is there an age limit that applies? As you get older does this change? Personally, I think this does change as you get older. As you grow and seek higher education, your field tends to get narrower. You only then start to apply to jobs where you have specialized in. You keep your options open, meaning, you apply to different places where you specialization can be put to work.
As I get older, when it comes to speaking to someone I am genuinely interested in I do not, will not, and refuse to keep my options open. Trust me, I was never like this. Overtime, you slowly realize that after dating “the wrong ones” for so long your list of requirements, your wants become narrower. And when you find someone who meets the requirements on that narrow list of yours, you do not want to waste your time going through wrong ones, when you have the right one. When someone has my interest I will stop communicating with the “maybes,” I will get rid of them and also I would not use any social networking sites (dating sites). I want to and will give 100%.
Call it dumb or whatever you want, overtime, you might understand my perspective. If you do not understand it right now, you don’t have to agree with me ...because after all this is:
*My Words, My Canvas*
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