A car, stranger(s) and the unknown. The fear non-existent. Each person has strengths and weaknesses. Many believe that their weakness is something that forces them to, “fuck up.” What most do not realize is that this weakness is not entirely “horrible.” This weakness can become someone else’s strength.
For example if the individual is a control freak and use to the black and white life style, most likely flexibility and patients will not be their strong suit. They meet someone who requires those two important words, “flexibility and patients” this automatically becomes very difficult for the control freak to understand. They only thing on their mind is to jump out of the car. Later we might realize god sends us these “strangers” and god takes us to the place of the “unknown” because he wants you to learn from it. “People come and go, they leaven footprints.” I believe this is a “sign” that might be teaching us a lesson in mysterious ways. The lesson is, STOP, RELAX, and be PATIENT. The control freaks are use to their strict lifestyle that they forget to stop and breath.
We are told early in childhood that there are negative qualities about a person and positive qualities. I understand that some do believe that certain qualities might not be so great, but when do we say, “Hey I learned a lot from _______.” When do we learn from others and others learn from us? Society/Mental Health Professional will always have a say in, “what is right and wrong personality wise.” I think that we should take each person and learn from them and grow.
At first the car, the stranger(s) and the unknown were scary. A few days ago I would say, “I HateLove that feeling.” Now I say, “I can’t wait to see what happens.”
*My Words, My Canvas*
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Monday, January 17, 2011
Moving On...
Communication is a topic I touch on quite often. Once again I would like to write a short blurb about it. Especially for those readers of mine who are in some sort of relationship, whether it is friendship or a coupled relationship.
What does communication mean to you? To each their own, but this is my blog. My definition of communication required understanding, feedback, words, body language, tone, writing, eye contact and expression.
This becomes very hard when two individuals are living far apart. This is when words can become the most powerful tool in your relationship. Use it! Time with this person is precious.
Let me explain why communication is important:
**NOTE**WHEN THESE THINGS BECOME REPETITIVE IS WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM**
-You do not see this person every day; communication is limited to the internet and cell phones.
-Neglecting and not communicating with this person will not do good, only harm. This person will get the impression they are not wanted.
-When phone calls decrease significantly in amounts that is another sign of lack in communication and tells the other person to Move On.
-When the person does not call to say good night anymore, not only is communication not being used, the relationship dynamics are failing.
-Neglecting important topics will lead to unhealthy relationship and unsatisfying one.
- Also for all the men and women out there in long distance relationship. When a guy or girl rather spends more time with a friend who they can see every day, any day instead of taking a few moments out of his or her life to talk to you, there is a problem. Move On.
I know what my decision would be when placed in that situation, what is yours?
*My Words, My Canvas*
What does communication mean to you? To each their own, but this is my blog. My definition of communication required understanding, feedback, words, body language, tone, writing, eye contact and expression.
This becomes very hard when two individuals are living far apart. This is when words can become the most powerful tool in your relationship. Use it! Time with this person is precious.
Let me explain why communication is important:
**NOTE**WHEN THESE THINGS BECOME REPETITIVE IS WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM**
-You do not see this person every day; communication is limited to the internet and cell phones.
-Neglecting and not communicating with this person will not do good, only harm. This person will get the impression they are not wanted.
-When phone calls decrease significantly in amounts that is another sign of lack in communication and tells the other person to Move On.
-When the person does not call to say good night anymore, not only is communication not being used, the relationship dynamics are failing.
-Neglecting important topics will lead to unhealthy relationship and unsatisfying one.
- Also for all the men and women out there in long distance relationship. When a guy or girl rather spends more time with a friend who they can see every day, any day instead of taking a few moments out of his or her life to talk to you, there is a problem. Move On.
I know what my decision would be when placed in that situation, what is yours?
*My Words, My Canvas*
Sunday, January 16, 2011
And the Journey Begins...
My mind it is telling me to run. Run far away and never look back. The past shapes our personalities and is a part of who we are today. Why is that such a bad thing at times? Do the good experiences only have positive effects on us, or do the negative experiences really impact us. Our whole being.
It is rather unsettling when things are going well, too well, a person can’t help but take a moment to think,” when is this going to fuck up?” Why do some individuals automatically become frightened? Or is it not possible to ever have something go so well? We get scared, we shut down, and yes we push and push to fight that feeling and yet it still lingers above our minds. Floating like those animations you see in the comic section of a newspaper.
After being burned more than twice, what makes a person say, “This is my year, things will work out.” Should we just blame optimism? After so much “bad luck” a person starts to wonder, should I put my heart into this or is it already too late, because it’s in. Once it’s in then what? Wait until its shattered again? Or does the defense mechanism initiate and the pushing away beings.
Life is very strange, too strange if you ask me. To the point where it is safe to say, we just do not know what will happen. Have you heard that saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince,” well what if the fear pushes that prince away until all is left are blissful memories? Why can’t we just let life pass us by an hour at a time and not worry about the “ifs” and “buts?”
The truth is our fear, our hurt, our pain; our bad experiences will always stop us from taking that next step. We have to just let life happen and not interfere with god’s plans.
*My Words, My Canvas*
Friday, January 7, 2011
Going, going, gone...
This feeling is indescribable, the pain undesirable, the love …priceless. Yesterday morning a client was pronounced dead, due to an over dose of heroin. He was only 17. He had been 6 months sober. The clients that come into the drug and alcohol rehab I work for keep getting younger and younger. Our youngest client was/is 13.
We all went to pay our respects last night, at a get together to pay respects to the departed soul. The lives that were affect because of this incident endless, 48 people mustered up the courage to show up. The rest just couldn’t find in within them to come. It was too difficult.
The life of an addict and alcohol abuser is not easy. The craving, that “one hit” can take your life in a heartbeat. The disease does not care. However, people do care. Clients come and go; little do they know what a big impact and footprint they leave in our lives. Those memories are unforgettable.
I think it’s rather humorous how many people in this world go on and complain about mindless issues. For example, paper cuts. And the rest of the people in this world are suffering each day. They either are fighting to stay sober one more hour, one more minute. Or the others are trying to control their auditory and visual hallucination because of their diagnosis of schizophrenia or their mood disorders and sexual traumas.
Working in this field has taught me a lot about life and the type of person I aim to be (if not already). Be humble in life, appreciate what you have, and appreciate life and the people around you. Life is precious, death is long. The LAST thing a parent wants to do (no matter how horrible the relationship) is bury their own child.
*My Words, My Canvas*
We all went to pay our respects last night, at a get together to pay respects to the departed soul. The lives that were affect because of this incident endless, 48 people mustered up the courage to show up. The rest just couldn’t find in within them to come. It was too difficult.
The life of an addict and alcohol abuser is not easy. The craving, that “one hit” can take your life in a heartbeat. The disease does not care. However, people do care. Clients come and go; little do they know what a big impact and footprint they leave in our lives. Those memories are unforgettable.
I think it’s rather humorous how many people in this world go on and complain about mindless issues. For example, paper cuts. And the rest of the people in this world are suffering each day. They either are fighting to stay sober one more hour, one more minute. Or the others are trying to control their auditory and visual hallucination because of their diagnosis of schizophrenia or their mood disorders and sexual traumas.
Working in this field has taught me a lot about life and the type of person I aim to be (if not already). Be humble in life, appreciate what you have, and appreciate life and the people around you. Life is precious, death is long. The LAST thing a parent wants to do (no matter how horrible the relationship) is bury their own child.
*My Words, My Canvas*
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