Why So Distant?

I've been branded the 'Advice Queen' among most of my girlfriends and have been faced with this question a few times buy friends of mine. I'm no expert but I do give the best advice I can and have had no complaints...yet.

*sigh* Drama can be too much sometimes right?! ;)*

These are my tips for dealing with a distant boyfriend, what Can I do?

It doesn't matter if you've not been with your guy that long; you might even be married, if you're in the same boat it just may help you too.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, THEY ARE OFTEN BEST, IF SOMETHING DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT, IT OFTEN ISN'T RIGHT AT ALL.
There are a number of reasons a guy can get distant (if you're a girl that has more guy friends than girls or a woman with vast life experience under your belt, you may know this already).

Stress: It could be work related, the pressures of family life, being in a relationship, university deadlines etc.

Avoidance: he may be being distant as a form of avoiding a situation, which has nothing to do with you, but believes he must avoid you in order to avoid that problem because you may force cause or push him to face it.

Fear: perhaps he has noticed how needy he is becoming and he believes this might cause him to lose his independence, he probably likes you so much that it has just dawned on him how much he loves you or is falling in love with you and this might be to much for him. He may also fear the level of commitment or an increase in expectations you may have.

Cheating: yes it is quite possible that he maybe cheating, but being distant isn't the only sign of infidelity. So fret not ladies.

There are a number of things you should and should not do:

NO-NOs

Wasting time worrying, it will do neither of you any favours, and he will sense that you're worrying which will make him even more nervy and cold.

S-Mothering him: he needs your reassurance that he can handle this sitch like a man, he is not a baby, or your child.

Taking it personally: more than often it has nothing to do with you it can be work,friend,family related.

Trying solving it for him: it could put an end to your relationship, if he wanted you to solve he would have said so.

Playing mind games to get what's going on out of him: he will no enjoy it and feel he may not be able to trust him.

Making a big deal out of it, when he does open up and talk.

Mode of Action

Giving him all the space he needs: if it's a freedom, independence fear thing, he'd snap right back to you with time.

Loving the hell out of your man: he needs you now more than ever before.

Staying happy, hence the not worrying or game play to get him to talk.

Reassure him that you trust and believe him. Give him confidence let him know he can handle it.

Stay breezy/chilled out/calm when you're together, if he retires to another room, keep it all happy and smiley where you're at, he'd come out to feel the love. Positive energy is like a yawn.Contagious!

Set up some quiet time between the two of you, no distractions where he feels he can talk and he just might!

Something to Consider
Are you being too needy/demanding/clingy? This can lead to your guy getting a little distant.

Ladies, it's all fixable, just beware it could be the worst case scenario- he's ready to end it and is detaching himself so it won't hurt when he's leaving. It can be rough when your guy gets all cold but it can be handled, as soon as you spot it. Be brave it's never always worst case scenario.

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