Run

My heart swings back and forth between the need for routine and the urge to run. 

Rest in peace

So I was sitting in my office and this lady said excuse me I turned around and she said omg ms virani do u remember me I said no sorry I don't she said I'm gabbys mom. 

Gabby is a client I had at Dallas county she was 17 I was her counselor after she discharged she kept in contact with me for aftercare and she was doing well.

I said to her mom, "oh my gosh I haven't heard from her since March where is she how is she?"

She started to tear up and said gabby passed away she was in a car accident and was in a vegetative state and so after 30 days we pulled the plug 

Her mom came today to pick up gabbys $ be she had credit left over 

Gabby was getting treatment at my clinc

She was only 19 when she died 

She was born 1995 her birthday was in June she would have been 20. 

Let Go and Move Forward

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”

―Ann Landers

Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is.  This could be a relationship, a job, a habit, etc.

As you grow you discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are changes you need to make. 

The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits.  The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values.  

If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward, this feeling is normal.  

Reasons to Let Go and Move On

Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you. – You are the average of the people you spend the most time with.  In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are and the person you become.  If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative.

You have grown apart from someone.– Sad but true, no matter what you do or how much you explain yourself, some people will gradually evolve away from your core values.  As time goes on they will prove over and over again that they are committed to misunderstanding you and clashing with your needs.

You are truly unhappy with your current circumstances. – It’s always better to be struggling at something you love than succeeding diligently at something you despise.  

Your goals and needs have changed. – What was right for you then is not necessarily right for you now.  Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather realizing that you have changed, and then learning to start over with your new truth.

Fear is holding you back. – Part of letting go and moving on is facing the fears and disappointments of the past that are binding your spirit.

You catch yourself living in the past. – If all you do is attempt to relive something that has already happened, you’re missing out.  The mental space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun.

An old grudge is still hurting you. – Holding on to the weight of anger, resentment and hatred will not only hold you back, but also block your present blessings and opportunities.  You’ve just got to drop some things to move forward.

You aren’t learning anything new. – All positive change is the end result of learning.  If you aren’t learning, you’re simply dying slowly.

Ways to Let Go and Move On

Holding on is like believing that there’s only a past; letting go and moving on is knowing in your heart that there’s a bright future ahead.  Let’s take a look at eight ways to design the latter.

Accept the truth and be thankful. – To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.  It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead.  It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.  

Distance yourself for a while. – Sometimes you need to take several steps back in order to gain clarity on a situation.  The best way to do this is to simply take a break and explore something else for a while.  Why?  So you can return to where you started and see things with a new set of eyes.  And the people there may see you differently too.  Returning where you started is entirely different than never leaving.

Focus only on what can be changed. – Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood.  Live, let go, learn what you can and don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change.  Focus exclusively on what you can change, and if you can’t change something you don’t like, change the way you think about it.  Review your options and then re-frame what you don’t like into a starting point for achieving something better.

Claim ownership and full control of your life. – No one else is responsible for you.  You are in full control of your life so long as you claim it and own it.  Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your teachers, your mentors, the education system, the government, etc., but never to blame yourself.  Right?  It’s never, ever your fault… WRONG!  It’s always your fault, because if you want to change, if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen.

Focus inward. – It’s important to make a difference in the world.  Yes, it’s important to help people, but you have to start with yourself.  If you’re looking outside yourself to find where you fit in or how you can create an impact, stop and look inside yourself instead.  Review who you already are, the lifestyle you’re currently living, and what makes you feel alive.  Then nurture these things and make positive adjustments until your current life can no longer contain them, forcing you to grow and move beyond your current circumstances.

Change the people around you. – Some people come into your life just to strengthen you, so you can move on without them.  They are supposed to be part of your memory, not your destiny.  The bottom line is that when you have to start compromising your happiness and your potential for the people around you, it’s time to change the people around you.  It’s time to join local meet-ups, attend conferences, network online!

Take a chance. – When life sets you up with a challenge, there’s a reason for it; it’s meant to test your courage and willingness to make a change and take a chance on something new.  There’s no point in denying that things are different now, or being fearful of the next step.  The challenge will not wait even if you hesitate.  

Life only moves in one direction – forward.  This challenge is your chance to let go of the old and make way for the new.  Your destiny awaits your decision.  

Focus on today. – You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future.  Figure out what the next positive step is, no matter how small or difficult, and take it.  Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is to keep moving forward.  Take that leap without hesitation, without looking back.  Simply forget the past, look straight ahead and forge toward the future.

Releasing Anxiety, Releasing Stress, and Healing the Past

Releasing Anxiety 

I feel all the emotions that arise in me. 

If ever I am feeling anxious, I take a moment to ask myself why I am feelings this way. If I am worried about something that is out of my control, there is no point in worrying about it, simply because I have no control over the situation. If I am worried about something that is in my control, I don't need to worry because I am in control of the situation. 

If anxiety visits me, I stop what I am doing and notice my feelings. I close my eyes and focus on my breathing. 

Inhale. Hold. Exhale.

I release myself from the moment of anxiety. I am clam, I am safe, I am love, I am peace. All is well with me. 

Releasing Stress 

Whenever I fell tense or stressed, I take a moment to stop what I am doing, close my eyes and take a few deep breaths. I quiet my mind and envision all of the tension in my body being lifted away with the breeze. I remind myself that I have all the time that I need to complete whatever it is that I need to do. I do not need to rush or struggle with anything. I release all stress and tension from my body easily. I replace that pain with peace. 

Once my heart is calm and relaxed, I look into the reasons why I may have been feeling stressed and I look for better ways to manage my situation. 

Stress is just a feeling that I create with my thoughts. Thankfully, I have the power to change my thoughts at any time. 

Healing the Past 

There is no need for me to hold onto the past for it is over and done with. I now choose to let go of any hurt, anger or resentment that I have been holding on to. I no longer wish to feel any feelings of guilt. I accept my past for what it is. I forgive myself and I am able to start forgiving those who may have previously hurt me. Forgiving them is not accepting their behavior or their actions, it simply allows me to cut all cords that tie me to that person. 

I release myself from my past. I let go all the negative experiences and I no longer allow them to have any power over me. I am grateful for all the lessons that I have learned through my past experiences. 

Today I make peace with my past and I begin to live in the present moment, which is all there ever is. 

Suicidal Thoughts

This is tough because when suicidal thoughts show up, they don’t just go away when you want them to. They taint every part of you with darkness, it poisons all feelings. One way to prevent suicidal thoughts is by learning the Al Anon acronym for handling emotional overload:

HALT: You can keep terrible, defeating thoughts away, even if they have been haunting you. Don’t let yourself ever get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. If it starts to happen, correct, and change what is happening immediately. Make your own comfort a top priority.

A lot of you at this point would ask the same question I do, why? Why does it even matter? Because you matter! You matter to a lot of people who know you. You are aware of some of the people who care about you, but there are others, many others, who would miss you terribly if you were gone.

Take care of yourself when you start to feel pain. Feed yourself, rest, find a friend who lifts you when the sadness comes, and talk out your anger. Look together for solutions. When you feel angry and you notice you are stuck feeling upset, ask yourself: What can I do for me that will make things better, just for myself and right now?” Focus on something that will empower you. You can’t change others, but you can empower yourself. Practice self-care. Make your survival your top priority. Watch out for your own feelings; respect them, and keep your inner mood as light as possible. 

You might feel that no one can help you. Maybe you don’t want to disturb them or you are too embarrassed to share. The truth is that people love to help their friends and family. What might look like a big secret for you, will sound much smaller to them. Ask for their help and support in a very frank way: “I need your support and help. Can you help me?”

If you feel that you can’t trust anyone, there is still a good solution. You can find support at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Suicidal thoughts like any other thoughts are temporary and eventually are replaced with new thoughts. Become a part of the solution. Keep in mind that suicidal thoughts can kill, but they don’t have to. If you recognize today that you are not your suicidal thoughts, but you are just a person who has temporary suicidal thoughts, than you can get help in time. Give yourself a gift–care for you, remember there is help out there, and reach out to get support. Have faith in your power to heal your pain.

Seven Deadly Sins

The Seven Deadly Sins: Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Sloth, Wrath, and Envy. 

Although all these sins are dangerous to a person’s soul, there is one that stands out: pride. Pride is one of the worst sins on this list because it taints every virtue, and makes salvation much harder to obtain. 

If you have humility, but also have pride, this is what you get: If a soul tainted with pride wishes to have humility, he may say to God “I am nothing,” but praises himself for being so holy. If a person adds pride to generosity, there are two results. The first is giving what the person really doesn’t need, but constantly taking what the person “rightfully deserves.” The second result would be that the person takes this to the extreme such as selling everything he owns, in order to say that he was the best and boast about how much he has given to such and such a charity. Pride can taint Chastity. A proud soul will stay pure by. Impurity lies first in the heart or in one’s intentions, rather than solely in things physical. If you add pride to kindness, you get flattery. This means that you compliment a person inordinately, just too either look good, to make your reputation better, or to get something out of the person. This is, once again, very superficial, because, on the surface you seem quite charitable, but on the inside, you could hate the person, and no one would know it.

In short, pride is stealing from God the rightful glory due to Him. We tell Him that we are the reason for our virtue and holiness, rather than recognizing the sole source of this goodness. Most people forget that all good is from God alone, and applies it to themselves. This vice begins to eat away at our soul, and make what we thought was Faith, Hope, and Charity, to Me, Myself, and I. There are many ways that you can save your soul from this vice, but the main one is to pray for the grace of Humility. This is easily acquired by saying the “Litany of Humility”, or reminding yourself that all the goodness that you ever did came from God, and any sinfulness came from yourself. In having humility, we begin to love God more, as well as grow in the spiritual life. This is the most important thing in our life because it is the only thing that lasts for eternity.

The Seventeen Evidences of a Lack of Humility

1. To think that what one says or does is better than what others say or do

2. To always want to get your own way

3. To argue with stubbornness and bad manners whether you are right or wrong

4. To give your opinion when it has not been requested or when charity does not demand it

5. To look down on another's point of view

6. Not to look on your gifts and abilities as lent

7. Not to recognize that you are unworthy of all honors and esteem, not even of the earth you walk on and things you possess

8. To use yourself as an example in conversations

9. To speak badly of yourself so that others will think well of you or contradict you

10. To excuse yourself when you are corrected

11. To hide humiliating faults from your spiritual director, so that he will not change the impression he has of you

12. To take pleasure in praise and compliments

13. To be saddened because others are held in higher esteem

14. To refuse to perform inferior tasks

15. To seek to stand out

16. To refer in conversation to your honesty, genius, dexterity, or professional prestige

17. To be ashamed because you lack certain goods

Closing Prayer 

Let us prayer for love and peace. I pray that you help me resist temptation. Let us also pray for our financial situation that our God should restore unto me what the devil has taken.

New Chapter in my Life:

New Chapter in my life: I'm too old to have people in my life who lack loyalty, morals and integrity. If you don't encompass all three please free to remove yourself from my life. 

*my words, my canvas*

Thought before bed

Sure you're extremely wealthy, but how many of you can actually say that you have a good heart? 

Tonight's Lesson: Emotional Numbness

When people feel emotionally numb, they can feel emotionally disconnected from the world. An example if emotional numbness, When a person in a sad situation and does not feel like crying. Emotional numbness can also cause a person to feel hopeless about the future. 

It can be scary and you can begin to think you will never have feelings again.  Usually you don’t even know where to start to get your feeling back or how to figure out exactly what you are feeling.  Sometimes a negative life experience can cause the wide range of your feelings to be limited to only a few feelings like sadness, or anger or no feelings at all.  When you are emotionally overwhelmed by a situation, and don’t know how to respond, you may shut down and feelings of numbness can arise. 

The outside world may interpret your emotional numbness as being cold or apathetic.  Some people may think you don't care anymore about anything including relationships.  Others may accuse you of being distant or aloof.  They may not understand that this is part of depression.  One does not always have to be crying to be depressed.

Tips on how to deal with emotional numbness: 

Seek out the help of a good therapist. You will need support to get you through.

Realize that you are also denying yourself opportunities to feel good again. If you block everything out, you have also shut out happy feelings.

 

It may be cathartic to read books or watch movies which contain a lot of emotion. Immersing yourself in emotional content may be a more safe way to feel empathy and to begin feeling some emotion yourself. 

 

Try creative arts, for example paint, or write to express feelings.

 

Attempt to feel your feelings as they are happening. Try to be present and conscious about what you are feeling. 

Lesson of the day: Worthlessness

It may not surprise you to learn that feeling worthless is very common among women. Feeling worthless is possibly the most obvious symptom of low self-esteem. But it's also one of the easiest to overcome. Feelings of worthlessness are entirely subjective. They are all in the mind. They have no basis in reality. They do not constitute a problem that requires fixing, and you can choose to stop feeling worthless simply by opening your mind.

You had some intrinsic value when you were born. Everybody does. You had a potential capacity to make the world a better place, to bring joy and happiness to others, to experience a sense of emotional, spiritual, and physical fulfilment. That was worth something. It still is. Because you still have a potential capacity to do those things. It's impossible to take away a living person's capacity to add value to the world. Only you can suppress that value. Only you can decide to hide yourself away, feeling empty and alone. 

No matter how tough your childhood, no matter how rotten your luck, you can choose to enrich the world every day simply by the way you interact with others, by the way you make caring decisions, and by the way you feel about yourself. Feeling worthless is a safe option because it reduces the amount of pain you suffer when things go wrong. If you already know that you're no good and that no one will fall in love with you, or give you a job, or even care enough to listen to you, then when a rejection wings its way towards you - which it certainly will because it happens to all of us - then you're better prepared than most. 

Feeling worthless is an easy option; if you're worthless there's no need to try to do well and succeed in the things that matter to you because there is simply no point. Also, if you act as if your opinions and your desires are all worthless then people leave you alone. If you say you have no remarkable skills or talents then there is no need to apply them. If you say that you are a useless, hopeless nobody then people will expect far less from you. 

Deep down, all of us really want to feel valued. All you have to do is acknowledge your real value, accept it and then make a commitment to retain it and build upon it. Your self-esteem is more like a mosaic - made up of lots of little pieces, some of which can be damaged or missing to the detriment of the whole. You can make small improvements in one area or in several areas at the same time. Either way, the overall mosaic will become more defined, stronger, and more appealing.

The truth of the matter is that NO-ONE is worthless. Of course it's true that some people are born with physical features that are generally considered more beautiful than the average person's physical features. Other people are more intelligent, some are more athletic. It is important to make the most of who you are today and what you've got going for you right now. If you do this, and keep doing this day-in, day-out for the rest of your life, I can guarantee that you will never feel worthless again. You'll be far too busy adding value here, there and everywhere to stop and wallow in self-pity.

Acknowledge your real value by writing a list of your strengths, attributes and the good things that you do each day. Remind yourself of both your strengths and the areas you still need to work on. Make a commitment now to build your self-esteem and keep adding positive things to your life every day and find it within yourself to eliminate things from the negative side. Do more smiling, share more kind thoughts and caring emotions, be curious, optimistic, and courageous, work hard and have fun. And reduce the time and energy you expend in whining, moaning, or feeling sorry for yourself.

Be your own judge. You know yourself better than anyone and now that you're an adult it is up to you to decide your worth and to attempt to live up to realistic expectations of yourself.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Marianne Williamson -

Lord Jesus I come to You for hope. I come to You for courage. Lord I bring my burdens to You. I lay them down at the foot of Your cross. I pray that you would come and bring the comfort that I am looking for. Renew my strength. Help me to trust in You, Your Word and Your people. I pray You would bring a fresh sense of Your presence and touch on my life. Thank you for Your unconditional love Jesus. Amen

Lesson on Disappointment

Don’t let today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams. For me, disappointment is one of life’s most uncomfortable feelings. It’s complex, containing a subset of other emotions like anger, hurt, sadness, and probably many others too subtle to identify. Sometimes, those emotions by themselves are easier to deal with, but disappointment can leave me at a loose end. Disappointment can hover at the front of your mind and niggle at the back, bringing you a grey perspective on life, even if you’re trying to forget about it.

One of the hardest things to do in a world is to just let yourself experience a feeling. Human beings are not very good at allowing the experiencing of emotions in full without trying to speed up the process.  Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without any agenda of speeding up the process. Whatever you are feeling is OK. Take some time to just sit with your emotion and experience it without moving to fix or change it. Genuinely experiencing emotions, no matter how painful, is one of the beauties of life. Don’t shy away from these moments. Be present in them.

Having a broader perspective than your own view on a particular situation is always helpful. The critical point here is that you have to mean it. Rushing onto gaining perspective before you’ve allowed yourself to be with how you feel will be artificial and will not last.

Disappointment can ripple through to the core of who you are. If you don’t know what your core values are, you may not have a framework to support you when you experience negative emotions. Knowing your own heart and your values gives you the freedom of choice. You can choose to be driven by what happens to you, or you can choose to live in line with your principles.

As human beings, even though we know that some things are bound to happen, we’re not always willing to accept them.

When we are disappointed, we feel overwhelmed by our emotions. We are inclined to withdraw and blame others, wanting to wallow in our disappointment. We have to accept that we will continue to be disappointed—that it is a part of life, part of being human. We also have to accept that we will probably continue to struggle to accept this fact, at various points throughout the rest of our life. This step is a lifelong challenge and fundamental to dealing with disappointment. Life will be disappointing—but it will pass.

Practice acceptance and we may suffer less as it is happening and notice the good things in life more.  Disappointment is a part of life, but all parts of life can help us grow. We can be present and aware even in the midst of negative emotions and therefore live more fully.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

Today's Lesson

It takes time for a man to become a real man – sometimes a lifetime isn’t long enough. It really depends on how quickly you learn the lessons life has to teach you.

In the end, being a real man is understanding how you ought to interact with the rest of the world. Most importantly, it’s understanding how a man ought to treat women. 

Some men, for whatever misguided reason, feel they’re entitled to treat women like garbage. Minimize the damage and don't leave a women hurt and alone, wondering why she isn't  good enough. You’re entirely changing her future, and there is nothing she can do about it; her life is in your hands. The very least you can do is be a decent human being and be honest and treat everyone with respect. 

Don't lead a women to the point where she is trying to understand what she could have possibly done wrong.

Real men strive to be good men. They strive for greatness in all they do – including the way they live their personal lives. 

All people in the world need human compassion in their lives. Without it, life becomes an ugly, hollow existence. It becomes empty and void of all meaning, purpose.

You don’t need religion to tell you to be a decent human being. You don’t need someone greater than yourself to tell you not to use others.

Dedicated for an amazing person

Obstacles should never stop you. God's plan will always be more beautiful than all your disappointments. Place your hand over your heart. Feel that? That's called purpose. Don't give up. You're here for a reason. 

*My Words, My Canvas*

Thoughts before bed...

The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding. Communicate even when it's uncomfortable. A relationship without arguments is a relationship with lots of secrets.

*My Words, My Canvas*

Today's Lesson

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone myself, included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experience.

We create the situation, and then we give our power away be blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for "we" are only thinkers in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.

Resentment, Criticism, and Guilt

We are each responsible for all of our experiences.
Every thought we think is creating our future.
Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt.
We create every so called illness in our body.
Resentment, Criticism, and Guilt ... the most damaging.
We must release the past.
We must be willing to learn to love.
Self approval and self acceptance leads to positive changes.

10 Positive Psychology Studies to Change Your View of Happiness

10 Positive Psychology Studies to Change Your View of Happiness

1. From Wealth to Well-being? Harvard Business School, 2009. While there does appear to be some correlation between happiness and income when basic needs are not yet met, people tend to overestimate the influence of wealth on happiness by 100%. Money does not lead to nearly as much happiness as people think it will.

2. Buying Experiences, not Possessions, Leads to Greater Happiness: San Francisco State University, 2009. The study demonstrates that experiential purchases, such as a meal out or theater tickets, result in increased greater well-being than material possessions. These experiences tend to satisfy higher order needs, specifically the need for social connectedness and vitality—a feeling of being alive.

3. The Science of Gratitude: University of Pennsylvania, 2005. One of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in life is how much gratitude we show. And a noticeable difference can be experienced with as little as three expressions each day (“Thank you for…”).

4. Trust, Morality, and Oxytocin. Claremont Graduate University, 2011. Based on research findings, psychologists believe humanity’s trust, empathy, and morality increase as their levels of oxytocin increase. Neuroeconomist Paul Zak explains the simple act of eight hugs a day can increase internal oxytocin levels and result in a happier you and a better world.

5. For a Better Day, Smile: Michigan State University, 2011. People who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts can significantly and immediately improve their mood. Simply put, one easy way to improve your mood right now is to recall pleasant memories—and smile because of it.

6. The Dynamic Spread of Happiness: University of California, San Diego, 2008. In this significant study, people who were surrounded by happy people were more likely to become happy in the future. So if you want to discover more happiness in your life, make a point to surround yourself with joyful people.

7. Kindness Counts: University of British Columbia, 2012. In this study conducted at an elementary school, students who performed kind acts experienced significantly higher increases in peer acceptance. In other words, people who are kind to others are more well-liked. This contributes to their own personal popularity as they help other people.

8. People who Exercise on Work Days are Happier: University of Bristol, 2008. People’s moods significantly improve after exercising. They are also more productive and equipped to manage stress in their workday.

9. Is Volunteering a Public Health Intervention: University of Exeter Medical School, 2013. Evidence suggests volunteering benefits mental health and even, survival. Donating time to causes you believe in not only improves well-being and overall life satisfaction, it is also linked to decreased depression and a lower risk of dying early.

10. Spending Money on Others Promotes Happiness: University of California Berkeley, 2008. This study suggests that how people spend their money may be at least as important as how much money they earn. Specifically, spending more of one’s income on others results in greater happiness. So go ahead, be generous. You’ll be glad you did.

Rumi

My heart is so small it's almost invisible. How can you place such big sorrows in it? Look, he answered, your eyes are even smaller yet they behold the world. 

Empty Soul

The emptiness of my soul is one of the hardest things to face. 

There are moments during the day where the silence of my emotions come alive. They awaken the most painful feelings. 

The sound of the wind hitting on the edges of my window create a universe of thoughts and wonders, of doubts and fears creating an uncertain and inaudible echo.

It is the nothingness of my soul, the emptiness and silence that dive into my heart, trying to rescue the left overs of time. 

You will never understand The amount of pain that can stay hidden away in the deepest of a lonely damaged soul unless it's inside you 

A shared pain, is a healed pain.

*My Words, My Canvas*

Bittersweet Mornings

These days, mornings for me often start before dawn. I used to groan as I glanced out the window into the semi-darkness, lately I have found a way to make waking up a more joyful experience, even when it happens at 5 am. As soon as I open my eyes, I say a prayer: Lord, although I am tired this morning, You will give me all the strength I need to meet the challenges of the day. Your Words sustains me when I am weary. You awaken me morning by morning. I am ready, Lord, to liste...n to Your voice. Teach me what You would have me learn today. May everything I do today be pleasing in Your sight. Many of us today are not in the habit of prayer. I have heard many people note that they do not find it meaningful to mumble a bunch of words. The more we pray, the stronger the habit becomes; the less we pray, the weaker the habit becomes.
*My Words, My Canvas*

Loneliness

I know that reaching out to others comes back to me tenfold. Therefore, I get out of bed, get dressed, and join humanity in any way possible. Every word I speak to others, no matter how small, manifests in bigger ways. I am already creating the presence of more people in my life by my own positive and loving actions. I choose to find one living thing today to hold. As I hold a flower or a puppy or hug someone, I know I participate in the process of giving and receiving love which fills my soul. I am part of a living divine equation, and my emptiness is only a temporary illusion. I recognize, at a soul level, those who are already giving me love.

Social Change

The social change movement

The social change movement is defined a group of individuals acting together to address a particular social or community issue.  Any action to promote the worth, dignity, and development of individuals, communities, and cultures is also considered as social change. The overall goal of social change is to improve human and social conditions.

Social change impact on myself, my family, or my community.

September 11, 2001 was a tragic event for social change. Just like any other day, people attended work, school, lived their normal lives, just as any other day. The fear was not present as we believed that our country was safe, unbreakable. However on this day, things changed. Three hijacked airplanes were hijacked and the events would change America forever.

The Muslim-American continue to struggle with finding a way to reconcile American and Islamic identities. Muslims, one an overlooked minority were transformed in the eyes of the American public into something to be feared. Muslims became the newest, and most immediately threatening minority. Americans’ fear Muslims as they label every Muslim as a jihadist. However, they do not understand that the jihadist act due to a deeper misconstrued social, political and cultural force. The way society react to Muslims has been significantly altered.

Cowen (1991) discusses the importance of psychological wellness, wellness for different groups and across life spans. One threat to wellness is resilience which increases stress due to life events and circumstances. Competence can also be seen as a threat to wellness as over a life span competences change. System change and empowerment are also threats to wellness as the pursuit of wellness depends on an individual’s strengths and also the interaction they have within their social system. When individuals lack these four, wellness can become threatened. Merton (1936) discussed purposive action and isolated purposive acts as one kind of action is done without awareness of reasons; another kind of action is done because the agent is aware of reasons for that action. Anticipated and or unanticipated consequences are terms Merton (1936) uses frequently and describes is as an event that occurs after the action.

References

Cowen, E. L. (1991). In pursuit of wellness. American Psychologist, 46(4), 404-408.

Merton, R. K (1936) The unanticipated consequences of purposive social action. American Sociological Review. 1(6), 894-104