To Lie or Not To?

The way I live my life (and I am not saying this is the only way) is by being an open book. I do not volunteer information out to you, however if you ask I’ll tell. The most irritating thing a person can do in life (besides the obvious) is lie. In my opinion, I even consider keeping a secret as being a lie. Growing up life taught me many things; one thing that hurt me the most was being lied to by my family. I understand that at times family members lie to you because they believe they are protecting you from getting hurt. My mentality thinks that everything should be out in the open.

I am at this point in my life where positive things are happening for me and I have no room for so called friends in my life who lie. I would rather get rid of them then to hold on to fake friendship. I believe in having a small group of close friends who are real then having many friends who often become acquaintances. I decided to recently take action. I noticed a pattern of lies friends would tell me, then one morning I’d wake up and just block and delete them from my life. I would get on my cell phone company website and block them. I’d erase their number from my phone. I would get on facebook/yahoo messenger and delete them from my friends list. Harsh? Well, I have low tolerance for liars.

I find it kind of funny; I find it kind of sad that those who are in relationships decide to lie to each other. People wonder why there is so much drama when they are in a relationship. I have noticed the reasons are: lie, no trust, insecurities, or you’re found an individual with a DSM disorder and you didn’t know it. Lying takes up a lot of energy. You have to make up a story and then in the future continue to make up more stories to cover up the last one you told. If you’re the type of person where your phone is “off limits” then you’re giving your significant other a reason to not trust you and become insecure. I have noticed that when your straight out say, “my phone is off limits” that is when your significant other becomes suspicious and wonders, “Why.” Alternative method would be to let your significant other to have access then they won’t even want to touch it. They won’t even be curious, because they have the security that you are not hiding anything from them nor holding back in the relationship.

What is the point of this post? Nothing good ever comes out of lying, tell the truth and save yourself and the people around you lots of unnecessary drama and stress.